We met for the first time on April 12, 2015.
(Hmm, does that date sound familiar?)
We were (separately) attending a discussion group, and were literally sitting across from each other, unable to take our eyes off each other. Heidi made up her mind to make sure to talk to Mike before the event ended, and Mike was already planning on doing the same. Somehow, we both managed to stand next to each other at the social afterwards! Hmm.
We met up again at another social event and very soon made plans to get together just the two of us, despite both of our busy schedules. (Somehow we found the time.)
Over the summer we grew closer, and pretty much nothing was going to stop us from there.
From the beginning, we’ve built a relationship that is as authentic to us as it is intentional. From residing in separate homes to being polyamorous, our relationship may not look like everyone else’s, but we like it like that, and wouldn’t have it any other way. We’ve crafted a partnership based on communication, empathy, trust, patience, and—of course—love.
We didn’t have an “engagement moment” like many couples do. Our desire to become married was a joint conversation from the beginning, something we’ve discussed for years. There was no need for anyone to get down on one knee!
Inspired by our friends John and Susannah, who got married on the same weekend as their first date, we decided to plan our wedding on the day we met. This way, we wouldn’t have two different anniversaries. For us, our relationship was on from the moment we laid eyes on each other, and our wedding ceremony will reflect that, happening nine years—to the day—from that moment.
